Black fathers matter. There is no debate about that. For too long, the absent father myth has been used as a convenient scapegoat. But even today—when fathers are present and engaged—our community is still bleeding. Why? Because strong families cannot fix the issues that only economics can. The absent father myth keeps White America comfortable. It lets the nation ignore its crimes while convincing us to blame ourselves.

Waiting isn’t a weakness—it’s a weapon. What better way to disarm our oppressor than to control our own impulses?

There’s something nostalgic about hearing our parents and grandparents reminisce about the “good old days.” They talk about tight-knit neighborhoods where everyone knew each other, family dinners that were non-negotiable, and shared moments that strengthened relationships. For many of us millennials, that feels like a distant dream—an ideal we missed in the glow of TV screens and smartphone notifications. Growing up, some of us caught the tail end of that era when neighborhoo